You know that thing about being late for an appointment; or spending all day in your room; or pfaffing around and then looking at the clock and having to rush out the door? It’s a symptom not of lacking time sense but an inability to change state; you don’t mind being here, and you don’t mind being there; but leaving one state-place for the other is problematic. There’s a feeling of ill-ease that manifests as brain fade, so you potter around and lose track of time.
So. What if that’s the problem with work-aholics. Not that they have trouble leaving the work, itself, but the state change that exists is the problematic thing. They can’t leave work because there’s always some i to dot and t to cross; some spreadsheet to fill, some person to contact. Something to do that is worthy, makes them feel wanted and part of a bigger thing; some sense of purpose, some calming effect on the self.
To leave is to cut the ties, hurt the self, increase the unease. Moreover the change from one state-place, work-where you are one type of person, to home-where you are another type of person, is not instantaneous. It’s frightful in and of itself; travel, have you got everything; have you forgotten anything; will the homecoming be comforting; is there angst on the horizon. Travel, in and of itself is frought. It’s not relaxing, it’s time consuming for seeming no result, you are not surrounded by friendly support and you can not multi task, i.e. carry on the work just left. Technology has helped to change this of course; lap tops, phones, the inter webs have helped people meld the one state-place into the other work/home or home/work by connectivity. Which can be useful, because it melds the change, making it easier; and yet it removes the down time that travel can provide letting the body/mind relax and change focus from one state to the other.
One wonders how those who manifest many states cope. Are they ever with time to be their own true selves?